There is a tremendous potential for unique and powerful pleasure in exploring anal play and incorporating it into a healthy and happy sex life. It can be amazing and orgasmic. It is probably the most sought-after orgasm for those who've experienced it due to the flood of endorphins it produces. Anuses and the rectum are incredibly nerve-rich parts of our bodies that can experience immense amounts of pleasure. Anal play may still have many taboos, for instance, it's a sexual act for only gay men, if you are a straight man it means you are gay, it's painful, shameful, an "exit only", dangerous and dirty. The biggest hurdle regarding peoples' perceptions of anal play and their willingness to get involved is a lack of education and the resulting taboos. However, if you strongly educate yourself you will find that these taboos are not true for everyone. This does not mean I think everyone should participate in anal play, like every sexual activity or option, it's not going to be something that everyone is genuinely interested in or turned on by. This newsletter I want to help educate and inform you on some of the essential knowledge for finding pleasure in your hiney.
I will list 4 of the must knows when you are considering anal play....
1) Lube isn't optional for anal play. It's Mandatory!
Unlike the vagina, which is commonly a self-lubricating organ, butts do not produce natural lubrication. As a result there is a ton of drag and friction that occurs when trying to put things in butts without lube, which can result in some tearing and trauma to the anal tissue. This is the first, easily avoidable situation that can make butt sex painful and dangerous. Spit does not count as lube. You can never have too much lube. The type of lubrication whether water-based or silicone-based is a personal preference. Not sure what to use? Please read my newsletter "Lubricants" to understand the differences and to help you choose the best one for you.
2) Anything that's going in the butt needs to have flange...so that the butt doesn't eat it!
A biologically attached body part- be a penis, finger or tongue- are naturally flared! But for sex toys or household objects, please make sure that the object has a flared base. When we become aroused our pelvic floor muscles rhythmically contract and can pull objects into the rectum deep enough that they cannot be retrieved without medical intervention. Not only is this scary but it would also be embarrassing.
3)The receptive partner needs to be in charge!
Consequently many people have had bad experiences with anal sex. Often they have had a partner who has tried to enter their ass without asking permission, going in to big or to forcefully. This can be very painful and their body remembers that pain. Anal sex should NOT be painful. The person whose butt is being played with has the information, in form of biofeedback, that nobody else can access. Pain is really important information that lets us know that there is harm being done to the body. The best way to make this happen is to have the receptive partner control the depth, pace and speed of penetration and play. This is especially important in the beginning. Once the penetrating partner has a clear idea of what movements are definitely pleasurable and comfortable, they can continue playing within those boundaries. I cannot stress enough that communication is the upmost important rule in any sexual play.
4) Take your time and know your limits! Remember to breathe and relax.
Anal play is not a competition! A common mistake is people tend to think you can go from 0 to a penis sized object in no time. This is usually not the case for an average bottom. Don't let the porn movies deceive you. New anal players generally need lot's of warm up time. You need to give the butt time to build up to the ability to relax the inner sphincter muscle to comfortably allow something to pass through. My advise is to start off with something small and smooth about the size of a finger. Once this feels comfortable move up to a two-finger sized toy, then three and then so forth. All anal players need to breathe, relax and understand your own limits and not push past what is uncomfortable and painful.
Although it can be a little nerve wracking to try anal play for the first time or you had a bad experience once you try it correctly and safely, you might just be hooked.
Many people worry that anal sex will be messy. It can be, but good anal hygiene will address most of those concerns. First, you should empty your bowels take a shower and clean your anus inside and out. If you are still really concerned you can try an enema. Put a towel down and have some baby wipes ready to go.
Anal sex is healthy for the anal muscles, bringing blood and circulation into the sphincter. But I also am not afraid to address the obstacles to having great anal play. Here are some solid reasons maybe you should not partake. These issues include Irritable Bowel Syndrome, Neuromuscular Disorders, Colitis, Crohn's Disease, inflammation, food allergies or eating disorders (binging and purging). Or you might be experiencing temporary issues like flu or food poisoning or simply not experiencing regular, healthy bowel movements. If you suffer from digestive disorders, often it's best to just love your body and side-step anal sex. If you have any questions regarding your health you should always consult you doctor.
Being in the adult retail business I can tell you there is an abundance of anal toys you can experience with. They come in all different shapes, sizes and even colors. Of course you can use dido's, vibrators and strap-on's but they make toys specific for anal play. The most popular are anal plugs, anal beads, anal balls, anal probes and prostate stimulators. Please visit our online store and explore the many options available and remember to add plenty of lube to your cart.
In this newsletter I have only just touched on topics for anal play. There is plenty of topics and educational information out there for you to discover. I encourage you to discover your sexual fantasies and to think outside of the vagina box!
I will list 4 of the must knows when you are considering anal play....
1) Lube isn't optional for anal play. It's Mandatory!
Unlike the vagina, which is commonly a self-lubricating organ, butts do not produce natural lubrication. As a result there is a ton of drag and friction that occurs when trying to put things in butts without lube, which can result in some tearing and trauma to the anal tissue. This is the first, easily avoidable situation that can make butt sex painful and dangerous. Spit does not count as lube. You can never have too much lube. The type of lubrication whether water-based or silicone-based is a personal preference. Not sure what to use? Please read my newsletter "Lubricants" to understand the differences and to help you choose the best one for you.
2) Anything that's going in the butt needs to have flange...so that the butt doesn't eat it!
A biologically attached body part- be a penis, finger or tongue- are naturally flared! But for sex toys or household objects, please make sure that the object has a flared base. When we become aroused our pelvic floor muscles rhythmically contract and can pull objects into the rectum deep enough that they cannot be retrieved without medical intervention. Not only is this scary but it would also be embarrassing.
3)The receptive partner needs to be in charge!
Consequently many people have had bad experiences with anal sex. Often they have had a partner who has tried to enter their ass without asking permission, going in to big or to forcefully. This can be very painful and their body remembers that pain. Anal sex should NOT be painful. The person whose butt is being played with has the information, in form of biofeedback, that nobody else can access. Pain is really important information that lets us know that there is harm being done to the body. The best way to make this happen is to have the receptive partner control the depth, pace and speed of penetration and play. This is especially important in the beginning. Once the penetrating partner has a clear idea of what movements are definitely pleasurable and comfortable, they can continue playing within those boundaries. I cannot stress enough that communication is the upmost important rule in any sexual play.
4) Take your time and know your limits! Remember to breathe and relax.
Anal play is not a competition! A common mistake is people tend to think you can go from 0 to a penis sized object in no time. This is usually not the case for an average bottom. Don't let the porn movies deceive you. New anal players generally need lot's of warm up time. You need to give the butt time to build up to the ability to relax the inner sphincter muscle to comfortably allow something to pass through. My advise is to start off with something small and smooth about the size of a finger. Once this feels comfortable move up to a two-finger sized toy, then three and then so forth. All anal players need to breathe, relax and understand your own limits and not push past what is uncomfortable and painful.
Although it can be a little nerve wracking to try anal play for the first time or you had a bad experience once you try it correctly and safely, you might just be hooked.
Many people worry that anal sex will be messy. It can be, but good anal hygiene will address most of those concerns. First, you should empty your bowels take a shower and clean your anus inside and out. If you are still really concerned you can try an enema. Put a towel down and have some baby wipes ready to go.
Anal sex is healthy for the anal muscles, bringing blood and circulation into the sphincter. But I also am not afraid to address the obstacles to having great anal play. Here are some solid reasons maybe you should not partake. These issues include Irritable Bowel Syndrome, Neuromuscular Disorders, Colitis, Crohn's Disease, inflammation, food allergies or eating disorders (binging and purging). Or you might be experiencing temporary issues like flu or food poisoning or simply not experiencing regular, healthy bowel movements. If you suffer from digestive disorders, often it's best to just love your body and side-step anal sex. If you have any questions regarding your health you should always consult you doctor.
Being in the adult retail business I can tell you there is an abundance of anal toys you can experience with. They come in all different shapes, sizes and even colors. Of course you can use dido's, vibrators and strap-on's but they make toys specific for anal play. The most popular are anal plugs, anal beads, anal balls, anal probes and prostate stimulators. Please visit our online store and explore the many options available and remember to add plenty of lube to your cart.
In this newsletter I have only just touched on topics for anal play. There is plenty of topics and educational information out there for you to discover. I encourage you to discover your sexual fantasies and to think outside of the vagina box!